- Be on your guy like white on rice. Call him all the time to check up on him. You have to be the first person he talks to in the morning and the last person he talks to at night. You have to know where he is and what he is up to at all times of the day. Guys like it when you don't give them breathing space it shows how much you care.
- Guys like a strong (African) woman. If they talk one, you talk two. Let him know this is the 21st century and nobody can be the boss of you. Make sure he knows you are both the head and the neck. Show him how much of a fighter you are, that way he knows when push comes to shove, you will ride or die for the relationship.
- Mold and shape him into exactly how you want him to be. Men are hard to find these days so take the best one you can find even though he might not be exactly what you want. If you want a preppy guy and you see a ruffian who knows how to speak good English, no worries. Just spruce him up, it's all about helping him advance as a person and guys love that. Besides, they love when you dress them and tell them how to act. Just don't do it (too much) in public.
- Tell him what you want him to do, over and over and over again. He will thank you for it as he is aware of his limitations which include a short attention span or just plain laziness. You just have to keep reminding him. You wouldn't do it if you didn't love him and he knows that. Some people might call it nagging, but what do they know?
- If you do all of the above and he stops answering your calls and starts avoiding you. Make sure you keep calling. 10 calls in one minute, is that the best you can do? Persistence is the key. Show up at his house, job, church, mother's house unannounced. How else would he know you really love him and can't imagine not having him in your life?
When you hold on tight to someone because you really love them and you can't imagine life without them, sometimes you end up holding too tight and choking the life out of it. Release and stand back. What's yours is yours. Relax.
"We waste a lot of time running after people we could have caught by just standing still."
- Mignon McLaughlin