Let's Talk about the Touts on Wives Connection

I am going to write this post, then i think i am going to take a break from blogging and blogs for a while. I was SO tempted to delete my blog yesterday. People who have read my blog for a while know that i do that from time to time usually when i need to focus on school, but this time it would have been for a different reason.

Myne asked me not too long ago if i would stop blogging (or something like that) and i said no, because this is something i actually enjoy doing. However, in the very recent past i think this blog has gotten an expiration date. After the incident on Wives connection when some faceless coward made the comment about me being a trouble maker and you can only blame Ahdaisy if you don't know sting, i was just done. I don't need this. I really don't.

I stopped commenting on that blog because there seems to be a lot of touts, power rangers and minions who visit there and who have a follow-follow mentality. You need to be able to think for yourself and not just jump on a bandwagon. I still read the blog though because it is entertaining. I don't pretend to have answers to people's problems so why bother advising anyone. The only time i ever left a comment since that incident was for the lady whose husband had erectile dysfunction. It was a medical issue and since i have a bit of knowledge on that topic i left a comment.

I was reading the 2 face critique Eya posted yesterday and got to the comments and starting seeing people saying all sorts of crap about me. Ahdaisy was insinuating that i was the one who left a nasty comment for her, and did i not say i was never coming to that blog again (i guess she's the blog rep), and people jumping on the bandwagon and calling me out. I didn't even get to see some of  the nasty comments about Ahdaisy because Eya had deleted them before i got there, but all the comments mentioning me were still up there for my viewing pleasure. I am not a coward and really don't have the time to be leaving anonymous comments for anyone. Apparently, certain people don't like the Ahdaisy chic for whatever reason. I had a problem with ONE comment that she made, i said something about it, and she no longer exists to me. Why would i go and be anonymously leaving her comments. She's a non-issue. Trust me when i say that if i have something to say i will use my blog identity to say it. No one is feeding me, paying my med school tuition and i don't blog for money, so what's that deal here? I'm supposed to be sacred of some random chic who has her own blog but wants to die on someone else's blog? You are so good at giving advice, why don't you set up your blog to do that and maybe make something out of it? You see how people don't have common sense?

Those anonymous commenters who left her those comments should have enough integrity to come back and say they did it, and it wasn't Sting because i don't have time for all that nonsense or for someone who feels that she knows it all. I don't know it all and i don't pretend to, neither do i think i am better than anyone for any reason.

I was motivated to write this post for two reasons. Firstly,  i just read The Salt chronicles (Desperate Naija Woman) where she talked about moderating comments. Eya was the first person to comment on that post and that's why i decided to write this post. She knows the kind of touts that visit her blog because she solicited them from Linda Ikeji's blog, which is why during the MARRIED controversy when someone was mouthing off about how Linda Ikeji's commenters have found their way to Eya's blog, i thought that was laughable. How do you think i found out about Wives Connection? She was actively advertising on there.

Knowing the kind of people who visit your blog with the fact that you allow anonymous comments, doesn't that come with some sort of responsibility to at least moderate comments? Why am i being accused of something that i didn't do, yet you delete certain comments and leave others? If it's all in a bid to generate views and comments, that's fine. In all fairness, I will add that the comments about me were deleted after I sent her an email to complain.

Secondly, there's nothing i hate more than being accused of something i didn't do. As Eya did not address it, I have decided to. Believe me if you like, don't believe me if you like, that's not my problem. I have said what i have to say. Wives Connection touts, please find another target for your nonsense, leave my name out of your mouths and best believe that if i have a comment to make about your master, you will not have to guess who made it. 

Someone was just saying the other day that things have changed since people started blogging for money. This was not the blogging community i knew and liked being a part of. Even when there were disagreements, it wasn't this bad. There's just too much bad blood going around. You don't know who your enemies are. If my blog was something tangible i could pick up and take far away to where no one knows me, trust me i would. Maybe i would have some peace and enjoy blogging again.

I am just turned off by the whole atmosphere. I don't want any comments about this post. Anyone who doesn't like it can kindly kick rocks. I am taking a break and if it wasn't for Lazy grad student, i would delete this blog while i take my break.

Good thing our weight loss competition starts tomorrow. Let me focus my attention on something that is actually going to improve the quality of my life and not all this nonsense. One last chance to join.

P.S I know i called for peace the other day and hopefully this came across as a very peaceful message. Not a single cuss word, lol. I can't even be angry about stupid stuff anymore but that does not mean i will stand back and let people accuse me falsely. Life doesn't work that way, at least not in my side of town. :)

Medical Student

I am going to be a MARRIED woman

.....so says comedian Princess

“I am so happy I’m now getting married, I can now proudly wear iro n buba like a Nigerian woman…God bless that young man that picked me and decided to pity me and marry me when I had given up all…I am saying this because I want you all to hear it, God bless him for me for covering up my shame”

This is what happens when you live in a society where a woman is only respected if she is married. I don't blame her for writing this. I am happy that she has found someone to cover her shame (I just cringed writing that). I guess by naija standards she had passed her expiration date.

O ma ga o!

I guess it's not easy becoming a MARRIED woman.

Let there be Peace.....and there was Peace

                                           

People, people, people......I don't like what is going on (big picture). I believe in having disagreements where people can state their views, learn from it (and each other), sometimes agree to disagree and move on.

People are genuinely not happy with each other around here, a lot of subs and indirect messages going around, people are not comfortable leaving comments for fear of being attacked.
*coughs* me
There are certain blogs i am not comfortable leaving comments in especially after i have been accused of wanting to destroy their fun blog.
I wanted to stop leaving comments on any blog period, but i was like what the heck.
If i have something to say and i think you are cool people, i will leave a comment. 

My darling sis, Ibhade has stopped allowing comments on her blog and it seems like it's going to be a permanent thing. 

I don't like what i am seeing. I was entertained by it initially but stuff like this stops being fun after a while. 

Naijalines, who was that message to? My amebo radar missed that. LOL.

I know i have been accused of being a troublemaker in the not so distant past. I have never agreed with that label. I am just a very vocal and opinionated person about the things that mean something to me. 

I am still learning to pick my battles and for the most part that has been going good. 

I think we should all bury the hatchet.

Email each other and work things out, 

Let's all be kumbayah again. 

I miss the old blogsville. 

Anyone remember the category B awards? Those were fun. We can't even do that anymore, cos i really don't think blogsville exists anymore and it's turning out to be a bad thing. 

We used to be close and actually liked and supported each other. 

Ok people, kiss and make up. 

I am taking time out of my VERY busy schedule to post this (I have decided to stop slacking).

 So you guys need to listen to me. 

Please and thank you. 

Ah, who am i kidding? 

But i tried. 

Thankful

Re: Not-Exciting

Where is the blogsville tatafo when you need her? Since she decided to go MIA, i guess i will fill in for her today.

Simply mee has complained that blogs are BORING these days. Say what now lady? I have taken it upon myself to help you out, sis as i have been quite entertained these last couple of days.

First of all, the ladies over at wives connection stay coming up with all kinds of ....erm dilemmas. LOL. I can't sometimes, i really can't. How do you remove the dark spots on your thighs so your husband can give you head aka eat you out?

 I just think some of these women are beginning to get carried away. LOL. I felt for the lady whose husband has ED, i just had to say something. Yet you see people telling her not to let her husband use viagra as it is addicting and he will have to use it for life. Whatever med school these "doctors" went to, failed them and they need to ask for their money back cos they don't know shit about shit.

Then there has been the natural vs relaxed debate over at Myne's , then Ginger then Naijalines. 

Naijalines has been giving me life. LOL. She has shocked and unshocked me. I'm like this lady ain't playing. Nah ah! She will cut you.

I believe in freedom of choice, people. Freedom of choice. I don't believe that relaxing your hair automatically equals self hate. Life is not that black or white. In sensitive issues like this (not sure why it is so sensitive but it is), i believe that there are less divisive ways to get your valid points across. Certain words are just inflammatory and no one is going to want to listen to you after that. They just zoom in on that word and you have lost them. However, i LOVE the fact that more of my black sisters are embracing the hair that comes out of their head, as is. LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that. That is such a good thing and no one can dispute that.

Then there has been Oga Solo and his multiple marriages saga. Now, if only he was honest, this would have simply being a case of polygamy instead of bigamy. The last time i checked Polygamy is still a part of our culture. Dude is ugly sha and likes ugly women (Just saying). Lilian try small, but that's not what this case is about.

Drama!!!! I just be sipping my tea and reading. Beats reading medical stuff, that's for sure.

Lohi created a quinoa recipe for me (and someone else). I can't wait to try it. You guys should check out her food and photography blog. It's so pretty. I love her.

I have been very entertained o. You guys should keep it up.

When you know that all is light, you are enlightened.