Lessons from 2012

• Sometimes even our best laid plans don't work out
• There are things we will never have the answers to.
• Life is about taking chances, it's hardly ever black or white
• Never give relationship advice no matter how well meaning. 
• Happiness is priceless and worth chasing after.
• When you have fallen completely flat on your face, there's no where else to go but back up

It's interesting some of the things i have discovered this year. The craziest of all is a relative who is resentful of the fact that i am going to be a doctor. I didn't realize being in med school was something to get a big head over, or being a doctor automatically means i think i am something. It's quite sad actually, quite sad. When i got into med school, this same person said something to the effect of me not being admitted into med school based on merit and i was a bit shocked and confused at the same time cos i didn't understand what she was getting at and why she would say that. I overlooked it. Now it has gotten worse, always alluding to the fact that i think i'm bigger than myself cos i am in med school. If i was a different kind of person, i would say she was jealous because she wanted to go to med school herself, but i won't think that way. If only she knew that medicine is a big headache and nothing to be pompous about, but that's her cross to bear. I am leaving all that madness behind in 2012.

I need things to be different. I need to feel better physically and mentally. I need to get myself back and i can't be worrying about crazy people. I have to decide what to do with my life in 2013, my goal is to graduate med school and get into residency and everything i do in 2013 is going to be geared towards that. I don't have time for nonsense.

Happy New Year to all my blog readers. You guys are awesome as always. To my "friends" who read this blog as a way to check up on me when my number hasn't changed, God is watching you in 3D.

I am so glad 2012 is over!!!!

Sami Yusuf - Asma Allah

Dear Self

Pat on the back for making it through 2012 with your sanity intact. 2012 was not a fun year and I know you are glad to see it end. 2013 is shaping up to be a toughie but you are tougher and you will get through all the huddles that are set to come your way. Remain focused and disciplined, take the lessons you have learned from 2012 and apply them to your life, always remember to keep your head up because the race is not always to the swift, nor the battle to the strongest.

Be cognizant of the fact that you are not perfect and will continue to make mistakes and when that happens, take steps to right your wrongs, learn from it and move on. Keep the people who love and support you close and don't worry about the rest. Do not depend on anyone for your happiness, that will always be a mistake. Remember, if someone is not adding positively to your life, they do not need to be in it. Embrace light, seek happiness, pursue grace as these will carry you far and help you have a peaceful life.

You were given this life because you were strong enough to live it and where there is no struggle there is no strength. You are a better person for it. I am so proud of you. I admire your strength, courage and the ability to persevere where others would quit. Keep pushing because the end is in sight.

I love you so much and i wish you the best 2013 has to offer.

Go get 'em girl!

 Love,
M. Sting

How things are Done in Uganda

19 things Single people hate being told

I saw this in somewhere online. Can't remember. 

1. It happens when you're not looking. "This is just bull. Some people find people when they're looking; some don't. You're not doing anything wrong by going out and meeting people." —Beth
 2. There are plenty of fish in the sea. "I dated a guy whose last name was Fish. People just had a BLAST with that one." —Kelly
 3. So, why are you single? "I generally dislike this question. I mean honestly, if I knew why, I don't think I would be single right now, now would I?!" —Erica
4. You're too picky. "This may be true, but it feels like I'm getting criticized for my taste, vision, and close-mindedness — when I'm already down." —Sarah
5. You'll find the right person for you. —Kelly
6. He's out there. —Kelly
7. It was just bad timing. "Like it's so easy to dismiss a guy on such an emotionless and objective reason." —Taryn
8. Just have fun with it! "Um, don't tell me how to date in my thirties when you got married at 24." —Maya
9. Have you tried online dating? "Duh!" —Elisa
10. He just wasn't the right guy for you. "I know! That's what I'm complaining about!" —Elisa
11. Well, when my boyfriend and I first got together… "Wait, I still want to talk about me." —Elisa
12. When the time is right, you will meet someone. —Betsy
13. Wow, I wish I were single and in your shoes! "Really?! I'm pretty sure you CAN be single if you actually want to be. That there is an attainable dream, so if you aren't messing with me right now out of pity (which I suspect you are), please go for it!" —Kim
14. Your turn next [at weddings]. —Natlondon, via Twitter
15. It will happen when you least expect it. —dlegas05, via Twitter
16. Some guy is going to come along and ruin your career/life plans. "I am 32 and no one has ruined the last 10 years of plans." —frolicblog, via Twitter 1
7. But you're so pretty! Why don't you have a boyfriend? "There's just no graceful way to answer that." —earnesteats, via Twitter
18. It just wasn't meant to be. "Any of these platitudes are exponentially more annoying when coming from the mouths of smug marrieds." —Reberoodle, via Twitter
19. Sure, my guy rescues kids from abusive homes, donated my sister a kidney, and picks up fresh flowers for me daily on his way home from work, but will he QUIT IT with the sports on TV already? "Single people just hate to be complained to about petty relationship stuff. If you do this, I'm not going to want to hang out with you. (In fact, maybe I'll call your boyfriend and ask him if he wants to grab a beer and watch the Yankees game?)" —Kim

Awww....Verastic Engagement

I just can't stop cheesing anytime i watch this video, which is three times and counting. Vera is the reason i blog today and i don't even think she knows it. I didn't know anything like blogging/blogger existed before i read a post she put on nigeriansinamerica.com where she talked about blogging and she linked her blog. I spent hours devoring this girls' post. She was funny! as hell. Then i started blog hopping through her blog list and discovering more Nigerian blogs. Jan 23rd, 2007 another Nigerian blogger was born, all thanks to verastic. This video is the first time i have watched her speak and it was weird. Heck, she refused to show us her face until this year (can't remember exactly). I have talked to her on the phone/co-hosted on her show and listened to her talk on her radio show, but seeing her speak was just.....my brain had to make the connection. LOL. I am happy for her and share in her joy. Funmi was by her side as usual....I love that friendship.

Mikki i saw you too o. Looking all cute and stylish. I wish i could rock that hairstyle.

Anyway, congratulations vera. I told you, you were the next big thing and it's going to happen.

P.S what happened to that book you were writing? You think say I don forget?

P.P.S. Igwe and I have the same birthday, Oct 29, so that automatically makes him a great guy. Only special people were born on Oct 29. Just saying. I might be biased but it's the truth.